Didn’t you see the red flags? Yes. Why did you ignore them? Because I loved him deeply. I put them in a box and placed it in a hidden part of the closet. Four years , a daughter and a marriage later, I confronted one by one all the red flags I ignored or rationalized into the box. And I’m still pulling them slowly out. I see it all from a different set of eyes. But that’s how it was; all those subtle hints, bizarre comments, overlooked signs all placed in a box and hidden. In the closet where I couldn’t see it anymore so that I could forget it all existed.